Seriously imagine 2 teenage girls back in the 80′s (inseparable as only teenage girls can be), telling each other everything and dreaming about their future. Of course their future was perfectly clear to one of them (me). I would be the new Oprah, be married to a very tall, dark, mysterious, bad boy turned successful adoring husband and have 2 children a boy and a girl. My best friend was not quite as sure about her future, but knew (hoped) it would include marriage to a wonderful man who would make her laugh and be madly in love with her (all came true by the way). She too would have a boy and a girl, and she wasn’t too concerned with what her career of choice might be. Of one thing we were both perfectly clear…. our daughters (born within 6 months of each other of course) would grow up to be best friends just like us.
Well flash forward some 29 years later and… I’m not Oprah, but I can’t imagine being happier with my career choice. I did marry a dark, mysterious, bad boy turned successful adoring husband (but let’s not discuss the tall part), and I did have 2 children, the first within the same year as my BFF’s first born but they were both boy’s (believe it or not they are best friends, kind of nauseating huh)? We both had our second children a few years later but mine came out another beautiful boy (who I wouldn’t trade for the world mind you) and she did have her girl. Needless to say they are not BFF’s, but are now at 13 finally able to acknowledge each other on the school bus from time to time. Yes, you read that right… my BFF and I live 1 mile from each other now, so close that the kids are on the same school bus.
This is all my long winded (but entirely necessary in my opinion) way of telling you that I had a moment last week that my BFF and I couldn’t have ever imagined in all of those late night, soul searching, over analyzing talks. I photographed her 13 year old daughter, while Karen sat back and watched the whole thing with a smile on her face and a tear in her eye. Now anyone who knows me, knows that when I photograph someone I am looking into their soul, and really seeing them; it’s the way I connect and imperative for me to get the kind of images I do. I guess you could say I’m still soul searching and over analyzing just instead of laying next to my BFF late at night I’m doing it with a camera in hand (pretty cool to realize that right here and now while writing this). This was supposed to be a gift for Rachel for her upcoming Bat Mitzvah, but I think that the real gift was given to Karen and I. For me the gift of really seeing the beautiful person her daughter is both inside and out and the wonderful trusting relationship they have together as mother and daughter. For Karen to see her daughter through my loving eyes and to know that no matter how our lives may change I still know her like nobody else can (sorry Morrie). For both of us the gift was to take a moment and realize that all of the important childhood dreams we had, have come true including the most important one of all… that we will always be 16 year old BFF”s when we are together. I love you both, and thank you for the opportunity to see that so clearly. Now enjoy your extra big (23 pictures) sneak peak…. she is my BFF after all, of course there are perks.